What is Counselling Really Like?
Debunking Myths and Demystifying the Process
Taking the first step towards counselling can feel daunting. It’s natural to wonder what it will be like, whether it’s right for you, or if your problems are “big enough” to need help. At Connected Counselling, we often hear people say, “I thought counselling was only for people in crisis,” or “I don’t even know where to start talking.” So, let’s clear up a few of the common myths – and explain what counselling is really like.
Myth 1: “Counselling is just talking about your past.”
While your past may be part of the conversation, counselling is about much more than that. It’s a space to explore your thoughts, feelings, behaviours, and relationships — past and present. It's about helping you make sense of what's happening now, find clarity, build resilience, and move forward.
Myth 2: “The counsellor will tell me what to do.”
Counselling isn't about advice-giving. Instead, it’s a collaborative process. You are the expert on your life — we’re here to walk alongside you, offering support, insight, and tools to help you understand yourself better and make the changes you want to make.
Myth 3: “If I start crying, I’ll never stop.”
Many people fear becoming overwhelmed by emotion. But in a safe, supportive environment, expressing feelings can be a release — not a breakdown. You’ll be met with compassion, not judgement. Tears, silence, laughter — they all have a place in the therapy room.
What actually happens in a counselling session?
In your first session, we’ll spend time getting to know each other. There’s no pressure to share everything straight away. We’ll talk about what’s brought you here and what you’re hoping for. It’s a chance for you to ask questions and decide whether counselling feels like the right fit.
From there, sessions are guided by you. You might talk about stress, trauma, relationships, identity, anxiety, or just feeling stuck. Some weeks might feel heavier than others, and that’s okay. Counselling is not about quick fixes, but about building insight, emotional strength, and a more compassionate relationship with yourself.
It’s normal to feel nervous
Starting counselling is a brave decision — and it’s okay to feel unsure at first. We’re here to make the process as accessible and human as possible. You don’t need to be in crisis to reach out. Many people come simply because they want to understand themselves better or navigate life more confidently.
At Connected Counselling, we offer a warm, confidential space for individuals navigating trauma, everyday mental health, or life transitions — including those in sport. Whatever your story, you are welcome here.
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